But there's nothing inherently sexy about some material strapped around a little girl's torso. The fashion industry is just aiming them to dress older," she said, adding that she has learned after several battles with her teenage daughter that "you have to stand your ground and be stubborn about it. You have to change the whole wardrobe. Stalking a former hook-up and calling sexual partners daddy. Then I realised that this was my baggage, not my daughter's. Is 7 the new 16?
In the meantime, while Mum is empowering herself by dancing around a pole in some suburban dance studio, mimicking the exploitative practices of a male-controlled sex industry, those with real power are sitting around a table devising strategies to market high heels to her seven-year-old, while others in positions of power in the media are busy distorting and dumbing down the complexities of this debate.
Is it OK to wear a bra at just 6 years old?
I vividly remember her referring to me as "oversexed" sometime in seventh grade after I broke out my first spaghetti string tank top, proudly purchased without her knowledge with my own money — aka, allowance. People will treat you the way you're dressed. But in the long run, I believe it is healthier for our kids to learn early that growing up is something to be proud of, not something to be pushed away. I guess I'd have to say that while her unabashed vocal opinions of my clothing caused more than one rift in our relationship during my teenage years, it stuck. These days they are more likely to be known as a first bra.